Hey everyone! That’s right. Tis me. I’m alive. And I’m back. Hmm…this is beginning to sound like terminator 5 or something. Well many of you probably don’t know who I am to begin with. I’m Ms Joan and the school counsellor at YJC. I have a blog…sorta…and I have been trying (in vain) to write on this blog more often in the last 8 years I’ve been here, but it hasn’t really worked out that way. BUT…I shall persevere…starting with this post!
Some of you have been asking me where have I been for the last 10 months? Apparently there are a few theories floating around. And given the uncanny amount of time I was away (10 months), some have conjectured that I was uh…pregnant. So let me just state categorically here that no, I was not pregnant, I did not deliver a baby out of wedlock and there was no baby given away to any nunnery. And surely you guys have better things to do than conjecture if the school counsellor got herself impregnated?! So there. I did write a post before I left where I talked about needing to take time off to take care of some health issues. And the school has been very kind and understanding in this regard. And I’m feeling tons better now. Thank you for amusing me with your wild theories. 🙂
LOADS seem to have changed in the time I’ve been gone. Some familiar faces are no longer here, some familiar faces have returned, the concrete pillars in the school have become grey in colour (no doubt to match the theme of this blog), the school attendant auntie is now also the security guard on occasion, we have a new VP (new not to you, but to me), the school garden is looking pretty rad, the school issued me a new work laptop and work phone (woh…) and of course the news of the merger of some JCs in 2018, including ours. Change is hard for many people. I can be the sort of person that is unmoveable as an elephant (pic above). I like routine. I like things to be predictable, people to be familiar, the water cooler water to taste the same. I think it’s an innate biological need stemming from our hunter gatherer age – if I forage in this bush, I will find this type of edible berries to fill my hunger. So I keep going back to this bush, expecting to see this bush every time, with the expectation that I will be able to fill my hunger every time. Hooray. Any unforeseen changes will trigger a stress reaction in the body (what happened to the freaking bush?! What am I gonna do now! OMG I’m so hungry! I’m gonna die!!!). And we don’t like how stress feels in our body. So we don’t like change. We find comfort in familiarity. It’s only human to feel that way.
As cliché as it sounds though, change is an ever constant is not a misnomer or an oxymoron. It’s just….life. And we could respond to changes kicking and screaming and pulling our hairs out or we could just look at change in the face and go ‘meh’. The things in our lives will change. Nothing ever really stays constant. And I think we often see this notion in a negative sort of light. But really, if we really think about it, it also means that if you’re in a difficult situation now, that will change too. It’s an inevitable fact of life. A student I met when she was in JC1 seemed so much happier now. It was amazing for me to see how things that seemed absolutely unbearable 10 months ago, just no longer poses an issue anymore. I asked her what made the difference, and she said with a smile ‘things change’. How wisely put. 🙂 So I hope that can be an encouragement to you, especially if you didn’t do well for block tests or is experiencing some difficult friendship or relationship issue, sometimes knowing that things can and will change (because that’s how life is) gives us hope to push on. What probably hasn’t changed though is how long winded I can get when I start writing!! So I’m gonna put a stop to that now. Will write more another time! Have a great week ahead and looking forward to meeting with the unfamiliar faces some time soon. 🙂